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[null,null,"Autore",null,"McDowell Sally Campbell Preston <1821-1895.>"]
[null,null,"Titolo",null,"\"If you love that lady don't marry her\" : the courtship letters of Sally McDowell and John Miller, 1854-1856 / / edited by Thomas E. Buckley"]
[null,null,"Pubbl/distr/stampa",null,"Columbia, : University of Missouri Press, c2000"]
[null,null,"ISBN",null,"0-8262-6334-8"]
[null,null,"Descrizione fisica",null,"1 online resource (942 p.)"]
[null,null,"Disciplina",null,"975.5/03/0922"]
[{"$nulls":4},"B"]
[null,null,"Soggetti",null,"Presbyterian Church - Pennsylvania - Philadelphia - Clergy"]
[null,null,"Lingua di pubblicazione",null,"Inglese"]
[null,null,"Formato",null,"Materiale a stampa"]
[null,null,null,"Livello bibliografico","Monografia"]
[null,null,null,"Note generali","Bibliographic Level Mode of Issuance: Monograph"]
[null,null,null,"Nota di bibliografia","Includes bibliographical references and index."]
[null,null,"Nota di contenuto",null,"Intro -- Contents -- Preface -- Acknowledgments -- Editorial Practices -- Introduction -- The Worlds of Sally McDowell and John Miller -- Fearing I say too much, unwilling to say too little. -- I have been able to say to you many things with my pen, that I could never have uttered with my tongue. -- I wonder if I shall love you as much face to face as I do in this letter-garb. -- Letters are poor substitutes for long talks, but we must put up with them. -- If you love that lady dont marry her. -- Shall I tell you all that goes in at the golden gate of Fancy or only of what goes out at the iron door of Fate? -- I may just talk to you about all things, as tho   you were only another self. -- I want to love you not only with my heart, but with my mind too. -- So, good bye My dear Mrs McDowell. -- Those years of trial. -- Index."]
[null,null,null,"Sommario/riassunto","\"If You Love That Lady Don't Marry Her\" is a fascinating collection of almost five hundred letters between John Miller (1819-1895) and Sally Campbell Preston McDowell (1821-1895). Their correspondence began in early August 1854 and continued until their marriage in November 1856. The oldest daughter of the late Governor James McDowell of Virginia, Sally McDowell owned and managed Colalto, the family plantation. She was considered part of the South's social and political elite. John Miller, a widower with two young children, was a Presbyterian minister in Philadelphia. Son of Samuel Miller, a founder of Princeton Theological Seminary, he was one of the North's most prominent clergymen. McDowell and Miller literally fell in love by mail, but one major obstacle blocked their marriage: Sally McDowell was a divorced woman. She had been wed to Governor Francis Thomas of "]
[{"$nulls":4},"Maryland, but his jealousy and cruelty soon drove her from Annapolis. Although an 1846 legislative divorce freed her to remarry legally, it was not socially acceptable to do so, especially not to \"a man of the cloth.\" So when Miller and McDowell announced their plan to marry, social pressure cost him his pulpit and made her the object of extreme criticism from family members and friends. Although Miller was initially determined to wed despite any opposition, he eventually settled for a long-term engagement to preserve McDowell's social position. Apart from a few brief visits, Miller and McDowell's relationship depended entirely upon letters. Begun in carefully guarded terms, these letters soon evolved into intimate explorations of their deepening love, their respective gender roles, the problems created by divorce, and religious and familial obligations. McDowell provides the unusual feminist perspective of a divorced woman in mid-nineteenth-century America. As she probes her own inner world, her correspondence with Miller becomes a healing experience through which she gradually surmounts the limitations she experiences as a woman, her depression and the fears resulting from her first marriage, and the stigma of divorce. Ultimately her self- revelations lead to their marriage in November 1856, which lasted until their deaths a week apart almost forty years later. Because of their unique situation, Miller and McDowell committed to paper the private thoughts and feelings that most couples would have expressed in person. Although their personal relationship forms the principal subject of these letters, the couple also discussed such issues as the growing sectional tensions, national and state politics and politicians, literary figures, church meetings and personages, slave management and behavior, and family and community values and attitudes. Eloquently written, these letters offer a unique window on American society on the eve of the Civil War. They also reveal important information about gender roles and relationship in nineteenth-century America. Because no other book like this exists in print, readers everywhere will welcome \"If You Love That Lady Don't Marry Her.\""]