LEADER 05767nam 2200685Ia 450 001 9910955942603321 005 20251116165752.0 010 $a1-4022-3409-0 010 $a1-281-82488-7 010 $a9786611824884 010 $a1-4237-2301-5 035 $a(CKB)1000000000246543 035 $a(EBL)3035142 035 $a(SSID)ssj0000174247 035 $a(PQKBManifestationID)11156017 035 $a(PQKBTitleCode)TC0000174247 035 $a(PQKBWorkID)10176586 035 $a(PQKB)11191702 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC3035142 035 $a(Au-PeEL)EBL3035142 035 $a(CaPaEBR)ebr10092055 035 $a(OCoLC)923695016 035 $a(BIP)33612641 035 $a(BIP)11116897 035 $a(EXLCZ)991000000000246543 100 $a20050310d2005 uy 0 101 0 $aeng 135 $aur|n|---||||| 181 $ctxt 182 $cc 183 $acr 200 10$aParenting with your ex $eworking together for your child's best interest /$fby Brette McWhorter Sember 205 $a1st ed. 210 $aNaperville, Ill. $cSphinx Pub.$d2005 215 $a1 online resource (375 p.) 300 $aBound in back-to-back format with separate sections for the residential and nonresidential parent. 300 $aIncludes index. 311 08$a1-57248-479-9 327 $a""Residential Parent""; ""Copyright Page""; ""Dedication ""; ""Acknowledgement""; ""Contents""; ""Preface""; ""Introduction""; ""Chapter 1: Facing Reality""; ""Understanding Terms""; ""Do Not Get Hung Up on Words""; ""Things Will Not Be the Same""; ""Look at the Other Side""; ""Let Go of Anger and Blame""; ""Ways to Move Forward""; ""Dealing with Loss""; ""Respect the Other Parent's Time""; ""Changing the Schedule""; ""Ways to Focus on Your Child""; ""Chapter 2: Your Changing Relationship with Your Child""; ""The Effects of Divorce""; ""Children's Common Reaction to Divorce"" 327 $a""Reactions by Ages""""Gender Differences""; ""Riding the Ups and Downs""; ""Dealing with the Bad Times""; ""Symptoms of Depression in Children""; ""Anger and Resentment""; ""Do Not Say Anything Bad about the Other Parent""; ""Dealing with the Fear of Abandonment""; ""Dealing with Divided Loyalties""; ""Dealing with Your Changing Feelings""; ""Dealing with Your Child's Changing Feelings""; ""Chapter 3: Communicating with Your Child""; ""What You Should Say to Your Child""; ""Things to Say to Your Child""; ""Things Your Should Not Say""; ""Things Not to Say to Your Child"" 327 $a""Listening to Your Child""""Chapter 4: Rules for Your Child""; ""Whose Rules: Yours or the Other Parent's""; ""Creating Rules Together""; ""Rules to Discuss with the Other Parent""; ""Discussing Rules with Your Child""; ""Sample House Rules List""; ""Sample Sticker Chart""; ""Sample Contract with a Teen""; ""Creating Your Own Rules""; ""The Other Parent's Rules""; ""Rules that are Wrong""; ""Misinformation""; ""Bending the Rules""; ""Changing Rules for Your Changing Child""; ""When Rules are Broken""; ""Final Thoughts about Rules""; ""Tips for Making Rules that Work"" 327 $a""Chapter 5: Rules for Yourself""""Deal with Your Emotions""; ""Tips for Dealing wih Your Emotions""; ""Work with the Other Parent""; ""Do Not Speak Negatively about the Other Parent""; ""Talk to Your Child""; ""Respect Visitation""; ""Avoid Confrontations""; ""Talk Honestly, but Carefully about the Divorce""; ""Make Real Promises to Your Child""; ""Be on Time""; ""Make the Best of It""; ""Rules to Live By""; ""Chapter 6: Communicating with the Other Parent""; ""Try to Develop a New Relationship""; ""Set Co-Parenting Rules for Yourselves""; ""Be Flexible"" 327 $a""Develop a Written Schedule Together""""Bite Your Tongue""; ""Divide Responsibilities""; ""Arguments""; ""Setting Up Times to Talk""; ""Getting Help""; ""When All Else Fails: Try the Business Transaction Approach""; ""When It is Unbearable""; ""Parenting Communication Rules""; ""Chapter 7: Encouraging and Assisting With Visitation""; ""Talking to Your Child about Visitation""; ""Things to Say to Your Child about Visitation""; ""Things Not to Say to Your Child about Visitation""; ""Your Responsibility for Visitation""; ""When Your Child does not want to Go"" 327 $a""When Your Child would rather be There"" 330 $aThis manual is the only book designed for both residential and non-residential parents. Formatted and printed in a back-to-back manner, the book encourages both sides to understand the other's point of view, and so enables both parents to make the most of time spent with the children. How To Parent with Your Ex provides support for the difficult situation the non-residential parent is in and practical, to-the-point advice about how to reap the most benefits from the visitation time available. Conversely, it addresses the role of the residential parent and the need to understand the changing relationships the child is going through. By focusing on the child, both parents are able to solidify a special relationship with the child and maintain necessary, positive communication with the ex-spouse. Appendices for this text include various parenting organizations, publication resources, related websites and sample visitation plans and schedules. 606 $aParenting, Part-time 606 $aDivorced parents 606 $aChildren of divorced parents 615 0$aParenting, Part-time. 615 0$aDivorced parents. 615 0$aChildren of divorced parents. 676 $a649/.1/08653 700 $aSember$b Brette McWhorter$f1968-$01799015 801 0$bMiAaPQ 801 1$bMiAaPQ 801 2$bMiAaPQ 906 $aBOOK 912 $a9910955942603321 996 $aParenting with your ex$94472389 997 $aUNINA