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Rothblum, editors 205 $a1st ed. 210 1$aNew York :$cRoutledge,$d2012. 215 $a1 online resource (401 p.) 300 $a". co-published simultaneously as Journal of lesbian studies, Volume 8, Numbers 3/4 2004." 300 $aFirst published by Harrington Park Press, 2004. 311 $a1-306-87146-8 311 $a1-56023-282-X 327 $aCover; Half Title; Title Page; Copyright Page; Table of Contents; Introduction; Lesbian Ex-Lover Relationships: Under-Estimated, Under-Theorized and Under-Valued?; "The Changer and the Changed": Ex-Lovers as Contexts for Development; To All the Girls I Left Before; Tenth Anniversary; Coming Out of My Closet; Coming Out of My Closet; In My Dream: My Ex-Lovers' Unconventional Convention; These Most Difficult Tasks; These Most Difficult Tasks; Passion; Moving Costs: Challenges of (Re)Defining Our Relationships and Dealing with Unfinished Business; Still the One; Joan; Michelle; Joan; Michelle 327 $aJoanMichelle; Joan; Michelle; Loading Up the U-Haul: Traveling the Spaces Between Friends and Lovers; Daring to Take the Risk; Introduction; How did it Start?; An Awakening! the Walk; Working it Out; The Good Times; A Horrible Year; Different Lives; The Wasteland-Living Without Each Other; The Catalyst-Becoming Friends Again; How We did it; Lovers Again; Family Affairs; Family Affairs; Highly Favored Ex; For Emily, Many Years Too Late/Years Later, in Another City, I Still Think of Her; For Emily, Many Years Too Late; Years Later, in Another City, I Still Think of Her 327 $aToo Much Tsoras? The High Costs of Maintaining TiesTruth, Dreams and the Li(v)es Between; Temporary Temptation; Temporary Temptation; Lost Love; Lost Love; Neurotic Love Letters; Before: Illusion; During: Lust; After: Betrayal; Goodbye Note to My Lover; Goodbye Note to My Lover; Leaving Liza; Lesbian Ex-Lovers by the Numbers: A Reflective but Not Contemplative Love Poem of Sorts; Not Lovers but not "Just Friends": Reconstructing Families, Friendships, and Communities; Personal Stories; I'm Not Lisa; The House on Transcript Avenue 327 $aOne true story: The Lesbian Herstory of My Last Home, Heretofore Referred to as the HouseA Linear Herstory of the House to Date; House Update; The Last Update; Epilogue; The Politics of Potlucks; Family Doggerel; Family Doggerel; The Visit; Irritating and Constricting/Elating and Elastic-Being "Ex" as a Lesbian; Theoretical Reflections; Consummated Friends and Ex-Wives: Two Types of Lesbian Ex-Lovers; When Three's a Crowd: Ex-Lovers and Lesbian Families in 2 Girls in Love; Plot Summary: The Incredibly True Adventure of 2 Girls in Love; Introduction 327 $a'Did you hear About her Family? They're, Like, all Lesbians!'Arrival of the Ex-Lover; Toward a Family of Friends; Conclusion; Making the Transition: Understanding the Longevity of Lesbian Relationships; Female-Male Relations; Female-Female Relations; Positive Viewpoints Towards Female-Female Relations; Negative Viewpoints Towards Female-Female Relations; Lesbian-Lesbian Relations; Lesbian FLEX-ibility: Friend and/or Family Connections Among Lesbian Ex-Lovers; Introduction: Setting the Stage; GOKWA-"God Only Knows What We Are"; Telling Tales; Naming Our Terms 327 $aBackground Research: Examining the Relevant Literatures 330 $a?We have earned a certain place in each other's lives, and in the best of times we can rest on what we have made together.? Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships examines the need for the development of better understanding and more critical analysis of lesbian ex-lover relationships. 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