LEADER 04600nam 22009255 450 001 9910807805203321 005 20230508162211.0 010 $a0-520-95972-8 024 7 $a10.1525/9780520959729 035 $a(CKB)3710000000214181 035 $a(EBL)1711011 035 $a(SSID)ssj0001289361 035 $a(PQKBManifestationID)12414296 035 $a(PQKBTitleCode)TC0001289361 035 $a(PQKBWorkID)11308526 035 $a(PQKB)11694564 035 $a(DE-B1597)520170 035 $a(OCoLC)886107609 035 $a(DE-B1597)9780520959729 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC1711011 035 $a(EXLCZ)993710000000214181 100 $a20200424h20142014 fg 101 0 $aeng 135 $aur|nu---|u||u 181 $ctxt 182 $cc 183 $acr 200 10$aMotherload $eMaking It All Better in Insecure Times /$fAna Villalobos 210 1$aBerkeley, CA :$cUniversity of California Press,$d[2014] 210 4$dİ2014 215 $a1 online resource (297 p.) 300 $aDescription based upon print version of record. 311 0 $a0-520-27809-7 327 $tFront matter --$tContents --$tAcknowledgments --$t1. Introduction --$t2. Shielding and Antidote Strategies --$t3. Compensatory Connection Strategy --$t4. Light- Motherload Connection --$t5. Inoculation Strategy --$t6. Friendship Strategy --$t7. Light- Motherload Independence --$t8. Conclusion --$tAppendix A. Research Participants --$tAppendix B. Research Methods --$tNotes --$tReferences --$tIndex 330 $aIn a time of economic anxiety, fear of terrorism, and marital uncertainty, insecurity has become a big part of life for many American mothers. With bases of security far from guaranteed, mothers are often seeking something they can count on. In this beautifully written and accessible book, Ana Villalobos shows how mothers frequently rely on the one thing that seems sure to them: the mother-child relationship. Based on over one hundred interviews with and observations of mothers-single or married, but all experiencing varying forms of insecurity in their lives-Villalobos finds that mothers overwhelmingly expect the mothering relationship to "make it all better" for themselves and their children. But there is a price to pay for loading this single relationship with such high expectations. Using detailed case studies, Villalobos shows how women's Herculean attempts to create various kinds of security through mothering often backfire, thereby exhausting mothers, deflecting their focus from other possible sources of security, and creating more stress. That stress is further exacerbated by dominant ideals about "good" mothering-ideals that are fraught with societal pressures and expectations that reach well beyond what mothers can actually do for their children. Pointing to hopeful alternatives, Villalobos shows how more realistic expectations about motherhood lead remarkably to greater security in families by prompting mothers to cast broader security nets, making conditions less stressful and-just as significantly-bringing greater joy in mothering. 606 $aMotherhood 606 $aMother and child 606 $aSecurity (Psychology) in children 606 $aSecurity (Psychology) 610 $a21st century american culture. 610 $aamerican culture. 610 $aamerican mothers. 610 $aeconomic anxiety. 610 $afamily. 610 $agender and women studies. 610 $agender studies. 610 $agood mothering. 610 $ahuman condition. 610 $ainsecurity. 610 $ajoy. 610 $amarital uncertainty. 610 $amarriage and divorce. 610 $amother and child. 610 $amother child relationship. 610 $amotherhood. 610 $amothering. 610 $aparent and child. 610 $aparenthood. 610 $aparenting. 610 $arealistic expectations of motherhood. 610 $arealistic. 610 $asecurity in family. 610 $asecurity nets. 610 $asingle mothers. 610 $asocial pressures. 610 $astress. 610 $aterrorism. 610 $awomanhood. 615 0$aMotherhood 615 0$aMother and child 615 0$aSecurity (Psychology) in children 615 0$aSecurity (Psychology) 676 $a306.874 3 700 $aVillalobos$b Ana$4aut$4http://id.loc.gov/vocabulary/relators/aut$01708500 801 0$bDE-B1597 801 1$bDE-B1597 906 $aBOOK 912 $a9910807805203321 996 $aMotherload$94097542 997 $aUNINA