LEADER 04422nam 2200637Ia 450 001 9910784558303321 005 20230807221129.0 010 $a1-280-43925-4 010 $a9786610439256 010 $a1-4237-6362-9 010 $a0-19-534541-X 010 $a1-60256-580-5 035 $a(CKB)1000000000363476 035 $a(OCoLC)226376719 035 $a(CaPaEBR)ebrary10142069 035 $a(SSID)ssj0000156706 035 $a(PQKBManifestationID)11162719 035 $a(PQKBTitleCode)TC0000156706 035 $a(PQKBWorkID)10130535 035 $a(PQKB)10178810 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC3052045 035 $a(Au-PeEL)EBL3052045 035 $a(CaPaEBR)ebr10142069 035 $a(CaONFJC)MIL43925 035 $a(OCoLC)814394165 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC271480 035 $a(Au-PeEL)EBL271480 035 $a(OCoLC)935260484 035 $a(EXLCZ)991000000000363476 100 $a19850603d1985 uy 0 101 0 $aeng 135 $aurcn||||||||| 181 $ctxt$2rdacontent 182 $cc$2rdamedia 183 $acr$2rdacarrier 200 10$aFor better, for worse $eBritish marriages, 1600 to the present /$fJohn R. Gillis 210 1$aNew York :$cOxford University Press,$d1985. 215 $a1 online resource (x, 417 pages) $cillustrations 300 $aBibliographic Level Mode of Issuance: Monograph 311 0 $a0-19-503614-X 320 $aIncludes bibliography: p. 385-407 and index. 327 $aIntro -- Contents -- List of Figures -- Introduction -- Part I: Courtship and Marriage in the Sixteenth and Seventeenth Centuries -- 1. Neither Single nor Actually Married: Courtship and Betrothal in a Homosocial World -- 2. A Maie Game of Marriage: The Politics of Big Weddings -- 3. Neither Birth nor Portion Shall Hinder the Match: Clandestine Marriage and Sexual Nonconformity -- Part II: Conflict and Change in the Age of Agrarian and Industrial Revolution, 1750-1850 -- 4. The Better Man of the Two: Changing Relations between the Sexes, 1750-1850 -- 5. Time Changes Fau'k an' Manners: Private Marriages versus Public Bridals -- 6. The Last Stage of Their Hope: From the Celibate to the Conjugal City -- 7. Married but not Churched: Common-Law Marriage and the Renewal of Sexual Nonconformity -- Part III: The Era of Mandatory Marriage, 1850-1960 -- 8. Better a Bad Husband Than No Husband at All: The Compulsion to Marry, 1850-1914 -- 9. Love on the Dole: The Ritualization of Courtship in the Twentieth Century -- 10. The Lady Generally Likes White Weddings: Revival of the Big Wedding -- Part IV: Conjugal Myths and Marital Realities, 1960 to the Present -- 11. Love and Marriage: The Unresolved Contradiction -- Appendix -- Notes -- Bibliography -- Index. 330 $aDid you know that...The "contemporary" fashion of living together before marriage is far from new, and was frequently practiced in earlier days...Self-divorce, although never legal, was once a commonplace occurrence...Marriage is more popular today than in the Victorian era...Marriage inchurch was not compulsory in England and Wales until the mid-18th century. These are just a few of the fascinating, and often surprising, revelations in For Better, For Worse, the most comprehensive treatment to date of the history of marriage in a major Western society. Using fresh evidence frompopular courtship and wedding rituals over four centuries, Gillis challenges the widely held belief that marriage has evolved from a cold, impersonal arrangement to a more affectionate, egalitarian form of companionship. The truth, argues Gillis, lies somewhere in between: conjugal love was neverwholly absent in preindustrial times, while today's marriages are less companionate than is commonly believed. Gillis also illustrates, in rich detail, the perpetual tension between marital ideals and actual practices. This social history of the behavior and emotions of ordinary men and womenradically revises our perspective on love and marriage in the past--and the present. 606 $aMarriage$zGreat Britain$xHistory 606 $aCourtship$zGreat Britain$xHistory 615 0$aMarriage$xHistory. 615 0$aCourtship$xHistory. 676 $a306.8/0941 700 $aGillis$b John R$0232792 801 0$bMiAaPQ 801 1$bMiAaPQ 801 2$bMiAaPQ 906 $aBOOK 912 $a9910784558303321 996 $aFor better, for worse$91287652 997 $aUNINA