LEADER 03491nam 2200649Ia 450 001 9910784396103321 005 20230422044646.0 010 $a0-8166-9187-8 035 $a(CKB)1000000000346886 035 $a(EBL)310509 035 $a(OCoLC)476094892 035 $a(SSID)ssj0000205858 035 $a(PQKBManifestationID)11184340 035 $a(PQKBTitleCode)TC0000205858 035 $a(PQKBWorkID)10193137 035 $a(PQKB)11404512 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC310509 035 $a(OCoLC)232159849 035 $a(MdBmJHUP)muse39530 035 $a(Au-PeEL)EBL310509 035 $a(CaPaEBR)ebr10151297 035 $a(CaONFJC)MIL522617 035 $a(EXLCZ)991000000000346886 100 $a20000501d2000 ub 0 101 0 $aeng 135 $aurcn||||||||| 181 $ctxt 182 $cc 183 $acr 200 10$aMothering without a compass$b[electronic resource] $ewhite mother's love, Black son's courage /$fBecky Thompson 210 $aMinneapolis $cUniversity of Minnesota Press$dc2000 215 $a1 online resource (178 p.) 300 $aDescription based upon print version of record. 311 $a0-8166-3636-2 311 $a0-8166-3635-4 320 $aIncludes bibliographical references (p. 167-[168]). 327 $aContents; Put my head in her hands, our two heads together; Witness to the telling; Limb from limb; Telling, not telling, still hurting; What part of the story do I tell?; Heart on the table, in my hands; In the age of no innocence; Lost time, in time, on time, with time; In the gaze, in the tone of the voice; Much of the script, already written; Father love; Mother love; Sex education in the 1990's; So grown; Sand beneath my feet, the tide takes its turn; Acknowledgments; Notes 330 1 $a"In 1997, Becky Thompson began parenting nine-year-old Adrian at the request of his mother, changing both of their lives forever. Mothering without a Compass is the story of Thompson's first year as the white lesbian "sudden-mother" of an African American boy. From the everyday yet sometimes overwhelming tasks of finding Adrian a school and debating the significance of action figures, to unexpected discussions about who pays whom at the sperm bank and the more complicated matters of racism, sexuality, nontraditional families, open adoption, love, and loss, Thompson gives us an absorbing and often humorous account of her experience with antiracist, multicultural parenting." "Mothering without a Compass relates a lesbian parent's struggle to help her child grow up and describes the complexities facing children who have more than one family."--BOOK JACKET. 606 $aLesbian mothers$xFamily relationships$zUnited States 606 $aWomen, White$xFamily relationships$zUnited States 606 $aAfrican American young men$xFamily relationships 606 $aChildren of gay parents$xFamily relationships$zUnited States 606 $aMothers and sons$zUnited States 615 0$aLesbian mothers$xFamily relationships 615 0$aWomen, White$xFamily relationships 615 0$aAfrican American young men$xFamily relationships. 615 0$aChildren of gay parents$xFamily relationships 615 0$aMothers and sons 676 $a306.874/3 700 $aThompson$b Becky W$01245510 801 0$bMiAaPQ 801 1$bMiAaPQ 801 2$bMiAaPQ 906 $aBOOK 912 $a9910784396103321 996 $aMothering without a compass$93712579 997 $aUNINA