LEADER 05447nam 2200865Ia 450 001 9910783261203321 005 20210618014829.0 010 $a0-8147-3911-3 010 $a1-4175-6850-X 024 7 $a10.18574/9780814739112 035 $a(CKB)1000000000031475 035 $a(EBL)865531 035 $a(OCoLC)782877953 035 $a(SSID)ssj0000162994 035 $a(PQKBManifestationID)11164636 035 $a(PQKBTitleCode)TC0000162994 035 $a(PQKBWorkID)10101785 035 $a(PQKB)11306892 035 $a(OCoLC)57361471 035 $a(MdBmJHUP)muse10763 035 $a(DE-B1597)548580 035 $a(DE-B1597)9780814739112 035 $a(Au-PeEL)EBL865531 035 $a(CaPaEBR)ebr10078477 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC865531 035 $a(EXLCZ)991000000000031475 100 $a20030513d2003 ub 0 101 0 $aeng 135 $aurnn#---|u||u 181 $ctxt 182 $cc 183 $acr 200 10$aGirlfighting$b[electronic resource] $ebetrayal and rejection among girls /$fLyn Mikel Brown 210 $aNew York $cNew York University Press$dc2003 215 $a1 online resource (272 p.) 300 $aDescription based upon print version of record. 311 0 $a0-8147-9951-5 311 0 $a0-8147-9915-9 320 $aIncludes bibliographical references (p. 243-253) and index. 327 $tFront matter --$tContents --$tAcknowledgments --$tIntroduction --$t1 Reading the Culture of Girlfighting --$t2 Good Girls and Real Boys --$t3 Playing It Like a Girl --$t4 Dancing through the Minefield --$t5 Patrolling the Borders --$t6 From Girlfighting to Sisterhood --$t7 This Book Is an Action --$tAppendix --$tNotes --$tReferences --$tIndex --$tAbout the Author 330 $aFor some time, reality TV, talk shows, soap-operas, and sitcoms have turned their spotlights on women and girls who thrive on competition and nastiness. Few fairytales lack the evil stepmother, wicked witch, or jealous sister. Even cartoons feature mean and sassy girls who only become sweet and innocent when adults appear. And recently, popular books and magazines have turned their gaze away from ways of positively influencing girls' independence and self-esteem and towards the topic of girls' meanness to other girls. What does this say about the way our culture views girlhood? How much do these portrayals affect the way girls view themselves? In Girlfighting, psychologist and educator Lyn Mikel Brown scrutinizes the way our culture nurtures and reinforces this sort of meanness in girls. She argues that the old adage ?girls will be girls??gossipy, competitive, cliquish, backstabbing? and the idea that fighting is part of a developmental stage or a rite-of-passage, are not acceptable explanations. Instead, she asserts, girls are discouraged from expressing strong feelings and are pressured to fulfill unrealistic expectations, to be popular, and struggle to find their way in a society that still reinforces gender stereotypes and places greater value on boys. Under such pressure, in their frustration and anger, girls (often unconsciously) find it less risky to take out their fears and anxieties on other girls instead of challenging the ways boys treat them, the way the media represents them, or the way the culture at large supports sexist practices. Girlfighting traces the changes in girls' thoughts, actions and feelings from childhood into young adulthood, providing the developmental understanding and theoretical explanation often lacking in other conversations. Through interviews with over 400 girls of diverse racial, economic, and geographic backgrounds, Brown chronicles the labyrinthine journey girls take from direct and outspoken children who like and trust other girls, to distrusting and competitive young women. She argues that this familiar pathway can and should be interrupted and provides ways to move beyond girlfighting to build girl allies and to support coalitions among girls.By allowing the voices of girls to be heard, Brown demonstrates the complex and often contradictory realities girls face, helping us to better understand and critique the socializing forces in their lives and challenging us to rethink the messages we send them. 606 $aAggressiveness in adolescence 606 $aAggressiveness in children 606 $aAnger in adolescence 606 $aAnger in children 606 $aFemale friendship 606 $aGirls$xPsychology 606 $aInterpersonal conflict in adolescence 606 $aInterpersonal conflict in children 606 $aTeenage girls$xPsychology 606 $aWomen$xSocialization 610 $aUnderstanding. 610 $aaggression. 610 $aroots. 610 $awomen. 610 $ayoung. 615 0$aAggressiveness in adolescence. 615 0$aAggressiveness in children. 615 0$aAnger in adolescence. 615 0$aAnger in children. 615 0$aFemale friendship. 615 0$aGirls$xPsychology. 615 0$aInterpersonal conflict in adolescence. 615 0$aInterpersonal conflict in children. 615 0$aTeenage girls$xPsychology. 615 0$aWomen$xSocialization. 676 $a305.235 700 $aBrown$b Lyn Mikel$f1956-$0527319 801 0$bMiAaPQ 801 1$bMiAaPQ 801 2$bMiAaPQ 906 $aBOOK 912 $a9910783261203321 996 $aGirlfighting$93855407 997 $aUNINA