LEADER 04222nam 2200673 a 450 001 9910778814403321 005 20200520144314.0 010 $a1-283-43970-0 010 $a9786613439703 010 $a1-4008-4185-2 024 7 $a10.1515/9781400841851 035 $a(CKB)2550000000079759 035 $a(EBL)842861 035 $a(OCoLC)773566844 035 $a(SSID)ssj0000592427 035 $a(PQKBManifestationID)11336449 035 $a(PQKBTitleCode)TC0000592427 035 $a(PQKBWorkID)10745630 035 $a(PQKB)10042439 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC842861 035 $a(MdBmJHUP)muse43326 035 $a(DE-B1597)453801 035 $a(OCoLC)979624115 035 $a(DE-B1597)9781400841851 035 $a(Au-PeEL)EBL842861 035 $a(CaPaEBR)ebr10527172 035 $a(CaONFJC)MIL343970 035 $a(PPN)265137942 035 $a(EXLCZ)992550000000079759 100 $a20110711d2012 uy 0 101 0 $aeng 135 $aurcn||||||||| 181 $ctxt 182 $cc 183 $acr 200 14$aThe paradox of love$b[electronic resource] /$fPascal Bruckner ; translated by Steven Rendall 205 $aCourse Book 210 $aPrinceton $cPrinceton University Press$dc2012 215 $a1 online resource (273 p.) 300 $aDescription based upon print version of record. 311 $a0-691-14914-3 320 $aIncludes bibliographical references and index. 327 $aA great dream of redemption -- Liberating the human heart -- Seduction as a market -- I love you : weakness and capture -- Idyll and discord -- The noble challenge of marriage for love -- Fluctuating loyalties -- The pleasures and servitudes of living together -- The carnal wonder -- Is there a sexual revolution? -- Toward a bankruptcy of eros? -- The ideology of love -- Persecution in the name of love: christianity and communism -- Marcel proust's slippers -- Epilogue : don't be ashamed!. 330 $aThe sexual revolution is justly celebrated for the freedoms it brought--birth control, the decriminalization of abortion, the liberalization of divorce, greater equality between the sexes, women's massive entry into the workforce, and more tolerance of homosexuality. But as Pascal Bruckner, one of France's leading writers, argues in this lively and provocative reflection on the contradictions of modern love, our new freedoms have also brought new burdens and rules--without, however, wiping out the old rules, emotions, desires, and arrangements: the couple, marriage, jealousy, the demand for fidelity, the war between constancy and inconstancy. It is no wonder that love, sex, and relationships today are so confusing, so difficult, and so paradoxical. Drawing on history, politics, psychology, literature, pop culture, and current events, this book--a best seller in France--exposes and dissects these paradoxes. With his customary brilliance and wit, Bruckner traces the roots of sexual liberation back to the Enlightenment in order to explain love's supreme paradox, epitomized by the 1960's oxymoron of "free love": the tension between freedom, which separates, and love, which attaches. Ashamed that our sex lives fail to live up to such liberated ideals, we have traded neuroses of repression for neuroses of inadequacy, and we overcompensate: "Our parents lied about their morality," Bruckner writes, but "we lie about our immorality.? Mixing irony and optimism, Bruckner argues that, when it comes to love, we should side neither with the revolutionaries nor the reactionaries. Rather, taking love and ourselves as we are, we should realize that love makes no progress and that its messiness, surprises, and paradoxes are not merely the sources of its pain--but also of its pleasure and glory. 606 $aLove 606 $aMan-woman relationships 615 0$aLove. 615 0$aMan-woman relationships. 676 $a306.709/03 700 $aBruckner$b Pascal$0144959 701 $aGolsan$b Richard$01558300 701 $aRandall$b Steven$01558301 801 0$bMiAaPQ 801 1$bMiAaPQ 801 2$bMiAaPQ 906 $aBOOK 912 $a9910778814403321 996 $aThe paradox of love$93822569 997 $aUNINA