LEADER 04031oam 2200637I 450 001 9910463291403321 005 20200520144314.0 010 $a0-429-90761-3 010 $a0-367-10284-6 010 $a0-429-48284-1 010 $a1-78241-268-9 035 $a(CKB)2670000000569435 035 $a(EBL)1798992 035 $a(SSID)ssj0001377255 035 $a(PQKBManifestationID)11785290 035 $a(PQKBTitleCode)TC0001377255 035 $a(PQKBWorkID)11318179 035 $a(PQKB)10533456 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC1798992 035 $a(Au-PeEL)EBL1798992 035 $a(CaPaEBR)ebr10944427 035 $a(CaONFJC)MIL647860 035 $a(OCoLC)892240861 035 $a(OCoLC)864750154 035 $a(EXLCZ)992670000000569435 100 $a20180611h20182014 uy 0 101 0 $aeng 135 $aur|n|---||||| 181 $ctxt 182 $cc 183 $acr 200 14$aThe promise $ewho is in charge of time and space? /$fby Leonard Shengold 210 1$aBoca Raton, FL :$cRoutledge, an imprint of Taylor and Francis,$d[2018]. 210 4$dİ2014. 215 $a1 online resource (189 p.) 300 $aDescription based upon print version of record. 311 $a1-322-16603-X 311 $a1-78220-150-5 320 $aIncludes bibliographical references and index. 327 $aCOVER; CONTENTS; ABOUT THE AUTHOR; PREFACE; INTRODUCTION; PART I CLINICAL AND LITERARY STUDIES; CHAPTER ONE Promise, change, and trauma; CHAPTER TWO On the trauma of seeing mother's genitals; CHAPTER THREE Chronic trauma and soul murder: literary and clinical examples; CHAPTER FOUR Haunting and parricide; CHAPTER FIVE Virginia Woolf haunted; CHAPTER SIX Rage as a fact of life (or, Who is in Charge of Time and Space?); CHAPTER SEVEN Killing (or not killing) the king 327 $aCHAPTER EIGHT Vladimir Nabokov: murderous impulses displaced onto Freud and literary rivals-and sublimated in relation to butterflies and chessPART II YEARLY REPETITIONS EVOKING THE BOOK'S TITLE; CHAPTER NINE The psychological effect of birthdays and anniversaries; CHAPTER TEN Jewish holidays: Chanukah, Purim, Passover, Rosh Hashana, and Yom Kippur; CHAPTER ELEVEN Christian holidays: Christmas, New Year's Day, Lent, and Easter; CHAPTER TWELVE Secular holidays: Thanksgiving, St. Valentine's Day, Memorial Day, Mother's Day, Father's Day, and the Fourth of July 327 $aCHAPTER THIRTEEN Holiday from psychoanalysis: as August approachesPART III THE PROMISE OF EVERYTHING; CHAPTER FOURTEEN Being both sexes-addendum: a clinical observation on anal sexuality; CHAPTER FIFTEEN Stella-the infant as the centre of the universe; REFERENCES; INDEX 330 3 $aOur sense of identity begins (our psychological birth sometime in the first year of life) with the feeling that we are the centre of the universe, protected by godlike benevolent parents who will enable us to live happily ever after. This is the "Promise" that is never given up, lurking in the unconscious part of our minds. We must learn, reluctantly, that our parents are unable to protect us from the passage of time, from decline, and from death. Yet we retain, even as adults, the delusion that, while others may die, we never will. This adds fuel to the murderous anger we are born with and must master, alongside the contradictory vertical split in the mind that we are destined to die. The "Promise" is described in patients and in examples from biography and fiction in relation to anniversaries and specific holidays. The book ends with a specific illustration in relation to an eight-month-old infant. 606 $aIdentity (Psychology) in children 606 $aIdentity (Psychology) 608 $aElectronic books. 615 0$aIdentity (Psychology) in children. 615 0$aIdentity (Psychology) 676 $a155.418 700 $aShengold$b Leonard$0163041 801 0$bFlBoTFG 801 1$bFlBoTFG 906 $aBOOK 912 $a9910463291403321 996 $aThe promise$91893827 997 $aUNINA