LEADER 03756nam 2200613Ia 450 001 9910454927903321 005 20200520144314.0 010 $a0-674-04436-3 024 7 $a10.4159/9780674044364 035 $a(CKB)1000000000786855 035 $a(EBL)3300064 035 $a(SSID)ssj0000139288 035 $a(PQKBManifestationID)11954270 035 $a(PQKBTitleCode)TC0000139288 035 $a(PQKBWorkID)10005823 035 $a(PQKB)10160923 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC3300064 035 $a(Au-PeEL)EBL3300064 035 $a(CaPaEBR)ebr10312769 035 $a(OCoLC)923109029 035 $a(DE-B1597)574378 035 $a(DE-B1597)9780674044364 035 $a(EXLCZ)991000000000786855 100 $a20051107h20052002 uy 0 101 0 $aeng 135 $aur|n|---||||| 181 $ctxt 182 $cc 183 $acr 200 10$aDilemmas of desire$b[electronic resource] $eteenage girls talk about sexuality /$fDeborah L. Tolman 210 $aCambridge, Mass. ;$aLondon $cHarvard University Press$d2005, c2002 215 $a1 online resource (272 p.) 300 $aOriginally published: 2002. 311 $a0-674-00895-2 311 $a0-674-01856-7 320 $aIncludes bibliographical references (p. 229-249) and index. 327 $tFrontmatter -- $tCONTENTS -- $tACKNOWLEDGMENTS -- $t1. GETTING BEYOND ?IT JUST HAPPENED? -- $t2. VOICES OF DESIRE -- $t3. SOUNDS OF SILENCE -- $t4. DANGERS OF DESIRE -- $t5. PARAMETERS OF PLEASURE -- $t6. GEOGRAPHIES OF DESIRE -- $t7. SPEAKING OF DESIRE -- $tON METHODOLOGY -- $tNOTES -- $tREFERENCES -- $tINDEX 330 $aBe sexy but not sexual. Don't be a prude but don't be a slut. These are the cultural messages that barrage teenage girls. In movies and magazines, in music and advice columns, girls are portrayed as the object or the victim of someone else's desire--but virtually never as someone with acceptable sexual feelings of her own. What teenage girls make of these contradictory messages, and what they make of their awakening sexuality--so distant from and yet so susceptible to cultural stereotypes--emerges for the first time in frank and complex fashion in Deborah Tolman's Dilemmas of Desire. A unique look into the world of adolescent sexuality, this book offers an intimate and often disturbing, sometimes inspiring, picture of how teenage girls experience, understand, and respond to their sexual feelings, and of how society mediates, shapes, and distorts this experience. In extensive interviews, we listen as actual adolescent girls--both urban and suburban--speak candidly of their curiosity and confusion, their pleasure and disappointment, their fears, defiance, or capitulation in the face of a seemingly imperishable double standard that smiles upon burgeoning sexuality in boys yet frowns, even panics, at its equivalent in girls. As a vivid evocation of girls negotiating some of the most vexing issues of adolescence, and as a thoughtful, richly informed examination of the dilemmas these girls face, this readable and revealing book begins the critical work of understanding the sexuality of young women in all its personal, social, and emotional significance. 606 $aTeenage girls$xSexual behavior 606 $aTeenage girls$xAttitudes 606 $aInterpersonal relations in adolescence 608 $aElectronic books. 615 0$aTeenage girls$xSexual behavior. 615 0$aTeenage girls$xAttitudes. 615 0$aInterpersonal relations in adolescence. 676 $a306.708352 700 $aTolman$b Deborah L$0879036 801 0$bMiAaPQ 801 1$bMiAaPQ 801 2$bMiAaPQ 906 $aBOOK 912 $a9910454927903321 996 $aDilemmas of desire$91963046 997 $aUNINA