LEADER 03422uam 2200541 a 450 001 9910157787503321 005 20250107181142.0 010 $a9781626565906 010 $a1626565902 035 $a(CKB)3710000000829806 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC4519093 035 $a(CaSebORM)9781626565906 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC31872166 035 $a(Au-PeEL)EBL31872166 035 $a(FR-PaCSA)88834112 035 $a(FRCYB88834112)88834112 035 $a(Perlego)1248554 035 $a(EXLCZ)993710000000829806 100 $a20160816d2016 uy 101 0 $aeng 135 $aurcn####||||| 181 $ctxt$2rdacontent 182 $cc$2rdamedia 183 $acr$2rdacarrier 200 14$aThe Gift of Anger /$fSolmonese, Joe 205 $a1st edition 210 1$cBerrett-Koehler Publishers,$d2016. 215 $a1 online resource (208 pages) 311 08$a9781626565883 311 08$a1626565880 327 $aChanneling anger into action -- Finding common ground -- Listening mindfully -- Overcoming differences -- How to ask for anything . . . and get it -- The sheer will strategy -- Sacrifice versus compromise -- Working together toward hope. 330 $aUnder Joe Solmonese's leadership, the Human Rights Campaign became the model other organizations look toward to create effective social and political change. Against daunting odds, HRC was instrumental in passing landmark national legislation such as the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr., Hate Crimes Prevention Act; repealing ?Don't Ask, Don't Tell?; and passing marriage equality acts in eight states. How did Solmonese and HRC do it? What Solmonese reveals in this book is that for him, the key to success was learning to harness his anger. Essentially it's just a form of energy. Channeled, it can keep you moving forward on a long journey. But uncontrolled, it can blow everything up. With this as his guiding principle, Solmonese uses stories from his work with HRC and his previous position as CEO of the powerful women's organization EMILY's List to share a series of often-surprising lessons. For example, empathize with your enemies instead of shaming them, find allies wherever you can, and ask for the doable, not the impossible (even when the ?impossible? is your ultimate goal). Most striking in this book are the stories of Solmonese's ability to draw some kind of win?however small?from seeming adversaries. But at every step of the way he emphasizes the importance of managing the yin-yang tension of anger. Particularly when one is dealing with irrational and offensive attitudes, the temptation is ever present to give in to righteous indignation. While it's fine to feel it, Solmonese's advice is to always be strategic with your outrage. 606 $aPOLITICAL SCIENCE / Political Process / Political Advocacy$2bisacsh 606 $aSELF-HELP / Communication & Social Skills$2bisacsh 606 $aBUSINESS & ECONOMICS / Negotiating$2bisacsh 615 7$aPOLITICAL SCIENCE / Political Process / Political Advocacy 615 7$aSELF-HELP / Communication & Social Skills 615 7$aBUSINESS & ECONOMICS / Negotiating 676 $a323.3/2640973 700 $aSolmonese$b Joe$01249040 702 $aShepard$b Judy 801 0$bMiAaPQ 801 1$bMiAaPQ 801 2$bMiAaPQ 906 $aBOOK 912 $a9910157787503321 996 $aThe Gift of Anger$92894704 997 $aUNINA