LEADER 04965nam 22006374a 450 001 9910155114403321 005 20200520144314.0 010 $a1-282-46804-9 010 $a9786612468049 010 $a1-55591-878-6 035 $a(CKB)2550000000006074 035 $a(EBL)478513 035 $a(OCoLC)609854020 035 $a(SSID)ssj0000364135 035 $a(PQKBManifestationID)12103050 035 $a(PQKBTitleCode)TC0000364135 035 $a(PQKBWorkID)10413377 035 $a(PQKB)11284234 035 $a(MiAaPQ)EBC478513 035 $a(EXLCZ)992550000000006074 100 $a20030911d2004 uy 0 101 0 $aeng 135 $aur|n|---||||| 181 $ctxt 182 $cc 183 $acr 200 10$aParenting your premature baby and child $ethe emotional journey /$fDeborah L. Davis and Mara Tesler Stein 205 $a1st ed. 210 $aGolden, Colo. $cFulcrum Pub.$dc2004 215 $a1 online resource (936 p.) 300 $aDescription based upon print version of record. 311 $a1-55591-511-6 320 $aIncludes bibliographical references (p. 843-878). 327 $aCONTENTS; Acknowledgments xxv; Introduction 1; CHAPTER ONE An Unexpected Journey 7; Orientation 9; Hopes and Expectations 9; When the Unexpected Happens 11; Map 15; A Different Path 15; EMOTIONAL COPING 15; DEVELOPING YOUR PARENTAL IDENTITY 16; MANAGING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS 16; Compass 17; Finding Your Own Way 17; The Tapestry That Reflects Your Emotional Journey 19; CHAPTER TWO Grief and Adjustment 21; Wrestling with Opposing Emotions 22; The Grieving Process 28; The Trauma of Premature Birth 30; The Mosaic of Losses 30; Understanding Grief 33; Common Feelings of Grief 37 327 $aSHOCK AND NUMBNESS 37SADNESS 39; PERSISTENT WORRIES 39; YEARNING 40; GUILT AND FAILURE 41; POWERLESSNESS 42; ISOLATION 43; ANGER 43; ENVY 44; FEARS ABOUT THE FUTURE 44; LONGING FOR WHAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN 45; Coping and Healing 45; Let Your Grief Flow 46; Have Realistic Expectations for Your Grief 47; Dwell on Your Baby 48; Find Ways to Feel Close to Your Baby 49; Tell Your Story 49; Accept the Support of Others, However Clumsy It May Seem 51; Accept That You and Your Partner Will Grieve Differently 51; Seek Professional Counseling 52 327 $aChoose to Face Your Situation andto Not Let It Destroy Your Life 52Allow Yourself to Hold On to Some Hope for the Future 55; Look for the Treasure in Adversity 55; Multiple Birth and Multiple Realities 56; Respect Your Own Needs 58; Points to Remember 59; CHAPTER THREE Moving through Painful Emotions 61; Moving through Feelings of Failure, Incompetence, and Powerlessness 62; Moving through Feelings of Anger 65; Venting Anger Constructively 67; Recognizing Your Anger's Triggers 68; Moving through Guilt 69; Tips for Letting Go of Guilt 72; CONSIDER THE CIRCUMSTANCES 72 327 $aRECOGNIZE THE LIMITS OF YOUR CONTROL 72REFRAME YOUR FEELINGS OF RESPONSIBILITY 73; ACCEPT AND LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES 75; ASK FOR FORGIVENESS 75; Moving through Vulnerability and Fear 76; Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder 78; Persistent Numbness and Avoidance of Grief 80; Getting to the Bottom of Your Grief 81; Professional Counseling 84; Journaling 89; Spirituality and Religion 90; Points to Remember 93; CHAPTER FOUR Especially for Fathers 95; Gender and Grief 97; Intuitive Grievers, Instrumental Grievers 99; Dashers, Delayers, Displayers, and Doers 102; Avoiding Grief 103 327 $aCOMMON STYLES OF FILING GRIEF AWAY 104FATHER AS PROTECTOR AND THE UTILITY AND COSTOF FILING GRIEF AWAY 105; Getting in Touch with Fear, Powerlessness, and Vulnerability 107; Keeping Roles Flexible 109; Couples and Grief 112; Points to Remember 115; CHAPTER FIVE Delivering Too Early 117; Pregnancy Complications 117; Bed Rest 120; Holding On to Your Sanity 122; Holding On to Yourself 124; When Delivery Is Inevitable 126; Delivery 127; Shock and Fear 132; Exhaustion 133; Shifting Focus 134; Emptiness 135; Separation from Your Baby 136; Seeing Your Baby for the First Time in the NICU 139 327 $aMother's Hospital Discharge 144 330 $a "An invaluable resource."-William Sears, MD The premature birth of a baby is both a medical and family crisis. Within the pages of this comprehensive guide, parents will find compassionate support, practical suggestions for coping and adjusting, and advice that empowers them to handle an array of emotions. 606 $aPremature infants 606 $aPremature infants$xCare 606 $aParent and child 615 0$aPremature infants. 615 0$aPremature infants$xCare. 615 0$aParent and child. 676 $a618.92/011 700 $aDavis$b Deborah L.$f1955-$01234459 701 $aTesler Stein$b Mara$01234460 801 0$bMiAaPQ 801 1$bMiAaPQ 801 2$bMiAaPQ 906 $aBOOK 912 $a9910155114403321 996 $aParenting your premature baby and child$92867603 997 $aUNINA