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Plural loves : designs for bi and poly living / / Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, editor |
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New York : , : Routledge, , 2013 |
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1-56023-293-5 |
1-315-86405-3 |
1-317-95355-X |
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Descrizione fisica |
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1 online resource (423 p.) |
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Altri autori (Persone) |
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Anderlini-D'OnofrioSerena <1954-> |
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Bisexuality |
Bisexuals |
Electronic books. |
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Materiale a stampa |
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". co-published simultaneously as Journal of bisexuality, Volume 4, Numbers 3/4 2004." |
First published by the Haworth Press, 2004. |
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Cover; Half Title; Title Page; Copyright Page; Table of Contents; About the Contributors; Introduction; Plural Loves: Bi and Poly Utopias for a New Millennium; Part One: Perspectives; Sweet Dreams: Sexual Fantasies in J.K. Huysmans's Against the Grain and Leopoldo Alas's La Regenta; Introduction; Sexual Fantasies: Against the Grain; Sexual Fantasies: La Regenta; Conclusion; Other Kitchen Sinks, Other Drawing Rooms: Radical Designs for Living in Pre-1968 British Drama; The Power Dynamics of Cheating: Effects on Polyamory and Bisexuality; Introduction; The Cultural Response to Cheating |
Cheating Is Commonplace and ExpectedCheating as a Spectacle; Cheaters Are Marked and Punished; The Monogamy/Cheating System; The Conceptual Apparatus of Cheating Enforces Monogamous Standards; Cheating and Monogamy: A False Duality; Interpersonal Power Dynamics in the Monogamy/Cheating System; It Takes Two to Cheat; Cheating as a Way to Take Power and Create Personal Happiness; It Takes Three to Cheat; The Monogamy/Cheating System and the False Duality Between Couples and Three-Person Cheating |
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Situations; Polyamory and Bisexuality Provide Three-Person Structures Not Modeled on Cheating |
Cheating and PolyamoryPolyamory and the Monogamy/Cheating System; Legal and Financial Penalties of Cheating and Polyamory; The Success of the Polyamory Movement and Its Escape of the Cheating Label; Cheating and Bisexuality; The Myth of the One True Love and Bisexual Invisibility; Concurrent Bisexuality Compared to Cheating; The Bi/Poly Alliance; Polyamory and Bisexuality Aid Each Other; Polyamory and the Production of Bisexual Visibility; Conclusions; Is Bisexuality Becoming Extinct?; Three and More in Love: Group Marriage or Integrating Commitment and Sexual Freedom |
Monogamy or Nonmonogamy?The Search for Sexual Freedom: From Church to Parliament; Promoting New Ways of Living Together; What Sociologists Say; "Do it!": The Communities Movement; Oneida; The Harrad Communities; Sandstone Retreat; Kerista; Twin Oaks; Komaja: The Community of the Future; The Philosophy; The Community; Polyamory and Bisexuality From the Viewpoint of Komaja; New Forms of Relationships for a New Society; The Tantric Groups as Examples of Zajednas; Children and Parenthood in Komaja; Makaja: Profile of a Spiritual Tantric Master; The Schooling; Komaja Spiritual Schooling |
The Art of LoveLove-Erotic Therapy; Conclusion; Remembering the Kiss . . .; A Glimpse of Harmony; A Bridge from Past to Present; A Rainbow of Relationships; Unraveling the Mystery; Making Right; Part Two: Testimonials and Reports from the Field; In the Forecourt of Paradise: A Report on the Possible Love-Erotic Future of Humankind; The Past; Cherry Blossom; The Reconciliation of Opposites; Take the Magic Wand of Life!; The Technology; What Makes the Wise Man Rise, Makes the Fool Fall; The Green-Eyed Monster; In the Forecourt of paradise ... |
Love Is Born from the Pulse of God's Heart: An Insight into the Polyamorous Circle Kamala |
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When limitations are removed from loving (and from lovemaking), new worlds of possibility are opened. This book presents insiders' viewpoints on bisexual/polyamorous living!With historical and theoretical perspectives, testimonials, reports from the field, and creative writing, Plural Loves: Designs for Bi and Poly Living examines group marriage, polyfidelity, cheating, solo-sex (and group solo-sex), utopian communities, tantric expression and sacred eroticism, transculturalization, and much more. This book explores the common ground shared by the bisexual and polyamorist movements |
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UNINA9911000384603321 |
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Autore |
Gunnarsson Lena |
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Dynamics of Sexual Consent : Sex, Rape and the Grey Area In-Between |
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Oxford : , : Taylor & Francis Group, , 2024 |
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©2025 |
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[1st ed.] |
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1 online resource (284 pages) |
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Cover -- Half Title -- Endorsements -- Title Page -- Copyright Page -- Contents -- Acknowledgements -- 1. Introduction -- Consent as voluntary participation -- The relational, affectable human -- Sexual consent in the law -- Consent in research -- How is consent communicated? -- The complexity of wanting -- Perspectives from legal philosophy -- Gender and power -- The relationship between normative heterosex and violence -- Sex wars -- BDSM and consent -- Men's consent -- The gender of sexual vulnerability -- Beyond heterosexuality -- Boundaries and grey areas -- This book's contribution -- 2. How does consent work? -- Lennart: "It's ridiculously simple signs" -- Stella: "If you didn't want to, you pushed the other person away" -- Nils: "In that case, I could choose to hug her instead" -- Elias: "It's really tricky" -- Oskar: "It's, like, you feel it in the air" -- The transgressive pub milieu -- Can a partner "grope"? -- Will I get elbowed or will she pull down her pants? -- The failed morning gift -- Consent: simple and utterly complex -- 3. Seduction or assault? -- Julia: "Then you've persuaded them until they actually want to" -- Stina: "I thought he probably wanted to anyway" -- Nils: "Even if your head doesn't want to, your body gets going" -- Oskar: "I manipulated her into sex by exciting her" -- Pernilla: "I let her take the step instead of me suggesting sex" -- Gunnar: "I'm very restrained about what signals I send" -- Human affectability, for good and bad -- 4. Giving in -- Stina: |
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"I thought that then he'd love me" -- Anas: "I don't want to make anyone unhappy" -- Kristina: "You don't have any reason to say no" -- Nils: "As a guy, it's hard to say no" -- Oskar: "Saying no has always been connected to me feeling bad" -- Gunnar: "She agreed so I'd be satisfied" -- The agency of the victimized -- 5. Giving in - because you want to. |
Gunnar: "She wanted to do it for my sake" -- Mariam: "You have to say yes sometimes" -- Thomas: "It was a little unfair that I did it for him while he refused" -- Stella: "I really worry that she wanted it because I wanted it" -- Rikard: "Sex was a way of overcoming our problems" -- Anders: The gender asymmetries of give-and-take sex -- The larger context of "maintenance sex" -- 6. Sexual templates -- Men's burden of taking the initiative -- Sexual liberation as imperative -- Women who are too much -- When there is no template -- The tyranny of reciprocity? -- The roles of the gay male scene -- Five dicks as threat or treat? -- Templates versus individuals -- 7. Knowing what you want -- Cecilia: "I've always been bad at knowing what I want" -- Stina: "I didn't even reflect on whether I wanted to" -- Wanting to want -- Michael: "Horniness goes past fear and common sense" -- Having no will -- The boundary between me and you -- 8. Dominance and submission -- Taking patriarchal degradation to its limit -- Escaping the burden of wanting -- Dominance and submission as a dynamic of validation -- Where does the responsibility of the dominant start and end? -- Norm-transgression versus self-harm -- 9. Beyond consent -- When consent is not what is most important -- Not being "sensed" -- "Mentally raped" -- Participating in one's own violation -- What happens afterwards -- Our need for respect and care -- 10. Sexually invulnerable men? -- Nils: "Like doing the dishes when you don't want to" -- Rikard: "Like when my favourite comedian isn't funny" -- Elias: "As if someone had been in my home against my will" -- Turning away from one's own vulnerability -- The gay scene's hypermasculine ideals -- "Just fuck" -- The paradox of (in)vulnerability -- 11. We must - still - talk more about sex -- In favour of a collective reflection on the grey area. |
Consent can be emotionally difficult -- Committed relationships do not protect people from assault and unwanted sex -- The need for respect and care -- People do not always know what they want -- The participation of the victimized party -- Same-sex dynamics of consent -- The ambiguous significance of gender -- Do we really need to talk more about sex in an overly sexualized world? -- Appendix: Methodological approach -- The participants -- The interviews -- Index. |
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This book addresses questions of sexual consent using deeply personal interviews with twenty Swedish women and men of various ages and sexual orientations. In doing so, it contributes to understandings of sexual consent and sexual grey areas through its combination of conceptual rigour, analytical detail and empirical richness. |
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