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Record Nr.

UNINA9910812851603321

Titolo

Lesbian ex-lovers : the really long-term relationships / / Jacqueline S. Weinstock, Esther D. Rothblum, editors

Pubbl/distr/stampa

New York : , : Routledge, , 2012

ISBN

1-317-95357-6

1-56023-283-8

1-315-86406-1

1-317-95358-4

Edizione

[1st ed.]

Descrizione fisica

1 online resource (401 p.)

Altri autori (Persone)

RothblumEsther D

WeinstockJacqueline S. <1961->

Disciplina

306.76/63

306.7663

Soggetti

Lesbian couples - United States

Separation (Psychology)

Interpersonal relations

Lingua di pubblicazione

Inglese

Formato

Materiale a stampa

Livello bibliografico

Monografia

Note generali

". co-published simultaneously as Journal of lesbian studies, Volume 8, Numbers 3/4 2004."

First published by Harrington Park Press, 2004.

Nota di contenuto

Cover; Half Title; Title Page; Copyright Page; Table of Contents; Introduction; Lesbian Ex-Lover Relationships: Under-Estimated, Under-Theorized and Under-Valued?; "The Changer and the Changed": Ex-Lovers as Contexts for Development; To All the Girls I Left Before; Tenth Anniversary; Coming Out of My Closet; Coming Out of My Closet; In My Dream: My Ex-Lovers' Unconventional Convention; These Most Difficult Tasks; These Most Difficult Tasks; Passion; Moving Costs: Challenges of (Re)Defining Our Relationships and Dealing with Unfinished Business; Still the One; Joan; Michelle; Joan; Michelle

JoanMichelle; Joan; Michelle; Loading Up the U-Haul: Traveling the Spaces Between Friends and Lovers; Daring to Take the Risk; Introduction; How did it Start?; An Awakening! the Walk; Working it Out; The Good Times; A Horrible Year; Different Lives; The Wasteland-Living Without Each Other; The Catalyst-Becoming Friends Again; How We did



it; Lovers Again; Family Affairs; Family Affairs; Highly Favored Ex; For Emily, Many Years Too Late/Years Later, in Another City, I Still Think of Her; For Emily, Many Years Too Late; Years Later, in Another City, I Still Think of Her

Too Much Tsoras? The High Costs of Maintaining TiesTruth, Dreams and the Li(v)es Between; Temporary Temptation; Temporary Temptation; Lost Love; Lost Love; Neurotic Love Letters; Before: Illusion; During: Lust; After: Betrayal; Goodbye Note to My Lover; Goodbye Note to My Lover; Leaving Liza; Lesbian Ex-Lovers by the Numbers: A Reflective but Not Contemplative Love Poem of Sorts; Not Lovers but not "Just Friends": Reconstructing Families, Friendships, and Communities; Personal Stories; I'm Not Lisa; The House on Transcript Avenue

One true story: The Lesbian Herstory of My Last Home, Heretofore Referred to as the HouseA Linear Herstory of the House to Date; House Update; The Last Update; Epilogue; The Politics of Potlucks; Family Doggerel; Family Doggerel; The Visit; Irritating and Constricting/Elating and Elastic-Being "Ex" as a Lesbian; Theoretical Reflections; Consummated Friends and Ex-Wives: Two Types of Lesbian Ex-Lovers; When Three's a Crowd: Ex-Lovers and Lesbian Families in 2 Girls in Love; Plot Summary: The Incredibly True Adventure of 2 Girls in Love; Introduction

'Did you hear About her Family? They're, Like, all Lesbians!'Arrival of the Ex-Lover; Toward a Family of Friends; Conclusion; Making the Transition: Understanding the Longevity of Lesbian Relationships; Female-Male Relations; Female-Female Relations; Positive Viewpoints Towards Female-Female Relations; Negative Viewpoints Towards Female-Female Relations; Lesbian-Lesbian Relations; Lesbian FLEX-ibility: Friend and/or Family Connections Among Lesbian Ex-Lovers; Introduction: Setting the Stage; GOKWA-"God Only Knows What We Are"; Telling Tales; Naming Our Terms

Background Research: Examining the Relevant Literatures

Sommario/riassunto

?We have earned a certain place in each other's lives, and in the best of times we can rest on what we have made together.?  Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships examines the need for the development of better understanding and more critical analysis of lesbian ex-lover relationships. This eye-opening look into the minds and hearts of women offers personal insight into the possibilities for and potential pitfalls of lesbian ex-lover relations. This book contains personal stories, fictional accounts, poetry, and theoretical analyses of the frequency and significa